I will be talking about the possible effects for today.
Marriage is very beautiful, don’t get me wrong and i solely support good marriages but that doesn’t mean the essentials facts should be left unaddressed.
When a lady is still young, She probably wouldn’t have figured out yet what she wants in life, at that age she is fighting really hard to finish her education with good grades and possibly still confuse on how to set her life and face the labour market.
At that stage, She is quite confuse and vulnerable and it is common for women to fantasize let alone a young woman, she wants a man who will give her life some meanings. Now, have you pause to imagine what becomes of her if this stage of her life is not properly managed?
She hasn’t seen the world yet, or tasted some aspect of life, i am not saying a woman should be wild, but she needs some level of exposure in other to understand, if you help her shorten it or deprive her of it indirectly by marrying her, they might be a problem.
Do you think she will live a fulfilled life if this stage is neglected? what kind of wife and mother do you think she will make in the future?
As raw as this may sound to some people but believe me when i say a woman is supposed to attain or to have grown to some level in her career before settling for marriage, below are the reasons.
- For financial security
- She needs to have her own life, taking care of her home and children including husband is important but she needs to breath her own air sometimes, do the job she dreams and long to have.
- If she don’t build herself or at least draw a path before marriage, once she gets married, she just might not have the morale or interest because of the home chores and other things, and this might keep her SAD.
- It might lead to lot of self restrictions and denial and when she eventually gets hold of the opportunity either by chance or otherwise, she might not be interested in the marriage again.
Having said all this, as a man what should you do? Go ahead and marry a pre 25?
If you already did, don’t worry you can always have a way to make your family better.
In my next post, I will talk about ” the possible ways to fit this if you have married a pre 25″
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